我们为何不幸福

我们为何不幸福~慈诚罗珠堪布著
分享几篇转不幸为幸的短篇

第一次听到堪布的名字是在2014年的AmiDewa retreat. 佛友介绍了及like了他的facebook. 

当远在外国的佛友要我帮她拿12月讲座的票时，我也没有想到要参与，尤其有几晚是与Mani retreat 撞期。

机缘巧合下，在Mani retreat 认识了一位新佛友， 为我简介了堪布的慈悲。提起了我一点的兴趣。法会结束后隔日早上，要我帮忙拿票的佛友极力推荐去听他的讲座。带着好奇心的我就到了水泄不通，人挤人的大众会所，很幸运地坐到一个好位子忍受了二小时的盘腿疼痛。

对当晚禅修的讲座只是感觉一般,但机缘巧合下,主办单位说有最后一对29日的票，讲题是<<实修及次第>>，当时对实修方法有待加强所以有些兴趣而友人又一再鼓励所以就决定再试试看。也许与他的菩提心课题刚好相应，当晚之后我就成了他的"粉丝"追着他在新加坡的讲座。奇妙的是许多疑问都在他的讲座找到答案。接着，也接触到许多他之前的讲座视频，文章让我对藏传佛教有了更正确的认识。

以下分享一些找到的网址

English fb of Khenpo! 

https://m.facebook.com/VajraWords

堪布慈誠羅珠在新加坡 HE Khenpo Tsultrim Lodrö Rinpoche teachings in Singapore

https://m.facebook.com/profile.php?id=786576498022306

《調心的方法》慈誠羅珠: http://youtu.be/0ptmfXBPfZ0

慈诚罗珠堪布：照此去修，肯定能够发起菩提心
 https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1536810666582174&substory_index=0&id=100007597669423

很棒！ 15/1/21堪欽慈誠羅珠仁波切『看見希望』講座 第七場

實修菩提心 摘要(二)具體修行方法
https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=384749638371836&id=190104864502982

《藏傳佛教簡介》 作者：堪布慈誠羅珠 來源：慧燈之光五
《佛法怎樣融入生活》 視頻

http://youtu.be/NAZZX4pQEHU

http://www.huidengzhiguang.com//c/2011-05-03/295.shtml

普除違緣賜諸悉地祈禱文ᴴᴰ_米旁仁波切(慈誠羅珠唸誦)http://youtu.be/0JMm2jXy8_4

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1042997169047631&id=412009498813071

Please read! 请详读！！！

阿弥陀佛的修法

作者：堪布慈诚罗珠

http://www.huidengzhiguang.com//c/2011-05-05/362.shtml

但是,读了许多,还是得己闻思修.消化理解,再融入生活实修.
希望在解脱道上能继续遇到善知识的教导,互相勉励精进,.
阿弥陀佛!

No one is Insignificant!

Love this story
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"I have a story about this; I hope you do not find it too earthy.
As this story goes, there was a meeting of all the important parts of the body. The purpose of the meeting was to determine which part was the most important. All the body's bigwigs were invited: the lungs, liver, kidneys, heart, intestines, the bones - basically, everybody who was anybody.
But they didn't invite the anus to their meeting. When he realized that he had been left out of this council of all the body parts, he took it very personally. How could they deny he was part of their team? Deeply offended, he decided to go on strike.
Oh, how the rest of the parts suffered when all the traffic got blocked! They no longer felt so high and mighty. The other parts of the body all had to come begging the anus's forgiveness, asking him to join the meeting and resume his very important activities. When the meeting resumed, lo and behold, they voted unanimously in favor of the anus as the most important. So, no matter what people think: no one is insignificant.

There is no hierarchy in a body. All the parts are mutually dependent and mutually supportive. Likewise, we human beings are all parts of the same body. Just because we do not wish to acknowledge another person's importance does not mean that this person is unimportant to our well-being. Just because we do not wish to acknowledge what we share with others does not mean that we can separate ourselves from them. Interdependence is an inescapable truth of our existence.

Of course, we are not all identical. Because certain differences does exist between us, we all have something to offer each other. We can work together making our diverse and complementary contributions. Because we are all part of the same social body, it is in our own best interest to assure that we can all function well together."

The Karmapa, Ogyen Trinley Dorje, "The Heart Is Noble, Changing the World from the Inside Out", pp 82-83.
Source:
https://m.facebook.com/KarmapaFoundationEurope/photos/a.436046173136786.1073741825.433780703363333/730069727067761/?type=1

Simply This Moment

Simply This Moment ~ A Wonderful book that one will initially be put off by its extra fine print.
But for some affinity, I bought it at Awareness Place.
It is a collection of Talks on Buddhist Practice by Ajahn Brahm, printed by Singapore's Brahm Education centre.
Reading the 1st few chapters on meditation topics, one is like being led by Ajahn Brahm on his meditation instructions while reading and may have a good experience he touched on.
And motivated by his words, one may develop a spur of detachment to current life. What is one doing? Wasting the precious human life now and feel like joining his organisation...
A great book, Strongly recommend to get...

Complement of Meditation Techniques to Chanting Practice

Managed to do a quick read on the free Distribution book "The Significance and Benefits of Six-Syllable Mantra Recitation" based on His Eminence Drubwang Konchok Norbu Rinpoche's Teachings at the 2004 Mani Recitation Retreat held at kmspks before the Mani Recitation 2012 retreat.

Tried hard  to practice what's taught in the book such as :

Reciting the mantra out of wish for all beings' negative karma, non-virtuous deeds, defilements to be purified and eradicated from root,

Generating bodhicitta, loving-kindness and compassion to all beings,

May All be Well & Happy
May All be liberated from suffering and the causes of suffering
May All have happiness and the causes of happiness 

Repent on my past deeds that causes my present situation and wish for all beings and my obscurations to be eradicated,

Gratitude to those who had made me "unhappy" to let me realise the imperfection of the samsara, arise the aspiration to want to get out of it, meet good Dharma teachers, know more about Pureland practice and aspiring towards rebirth in Amitabha Buddha's Pureland...

However, distraction thoughts also arise often and really have a good time fighting them as well as the restlessness.

Then, I recall the recent meditation techniques learnt and reflect:

How would Rinpoche & Venerables advise one?
~ Try different tune of chanting or methods of visualisation
~ Practice awareness of the thoughts arising and just watch them without drifting along
~ Tired of generating the visualisation?
Take a step back and just relax and chant in a relax manner without visualisation or
just enjoy the chant...listen to the chant by others, let the mind rest for a short while
---> return with energy later...


Aspiration to attend more retreats in 2013 to tune one's mind.
Blessing required to attend more retreats without Physical, Mental or any obscurations.
Longing for a good long one after Apr.
Let go....
Om Mani Padme Hung
Amituofo

Planting of seeds

This recent trip to Teochew brought back some old memories of seeds planted during my younger days...

One interesting concept that the Teochew people have is that they believe Oysters are vegetarian food because there is no blood outflow from it. So, we discussed if the shell products are vegetarian, it was then that I recall of my early encounters of reading picture books on advocating vegetarian and avoidance of killing from the library of S'pore Buddhist Lodge. There are several stories advocated of kind people who after rescuing the lives, even yes, shell lives from being killed from cooking and releasing them back to the water, dreamt of the shell lives transforming into human/deity forms and appearing in the kind persons' dreams, thanking them for saving their lives.
 
It led me to recall that I had always thought that I was influenced towards pro-vegetarian because of watching Ven. Hai Tao's DVDs advocating vegetarian a couple of years ago but they are actually intermediate compared to the young days when I visited the corner Picture book section at the library of S'pore Buddhist Lodge.

Those are the days when I will go there to study for exams but getting tired of studying, I will relax by reading the picture books at the corner. Back to the library recently, there had been some changes, but the corner is still there, the familar titles on the stories of Buddha & Bodhisattva and yes, books advocating vegetarian and life releases are also there.

Gratitude to S'pore Buddhist Lodge, for the conducive environment to study & read.
Amituofo...

“I am sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you, I love you.”

Thanks to bro E who lent me the book~ "Zero Limits" by Dr Joe Vitale & Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len.

From the book, it reinforces the awakening that

“I had to take complete responsibility within myself for actualizing the problems outside myself”

~ I should take responsiblity for not having sufficient merits and wisdom to handle the situation that I am caught in.

My prayers should be to be praying for myself, asking for forgiveness for whatever was going on in me that causes what I am experiencing now instead of blaming the parties involved.

“I am sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you, I love you.”

Clean. Clean. Clean.

“The purpose of life is to be restored back to love, moment to moment.

To fulfill this purpose, the individual must acknowledge that he is 100 percent responsible for creating his life the way it is.

He must come to see that it is his thoughts that create his life the way it is moment to moment.

The problems are not people, places, and situations but rather the thoughts of them.

He must come to appreciate that there is no such things as “out there.”"

“Cleaning helps reduce the mortgage on your soul.”

                                                                                ~ Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len.

 “It’s not your fault but it is your responsibility”

                                                                                ~ Dr. Joe Vitale
 

I am sorry,
Please forgive me,
Thank you,
I love you

Clean, Clean, Clean


(A good book to read to help you out of situations based on the ancient Hawaiian teachings of Ho'oponopono)

May All Be Well

May All Be Happy!!!

"Joy of Living Level 1" Meditation Retreat

Many uses the Buddha as the object of form meditation and the Serene Buddha smiles back to the meditators...

A friend who was just reading Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche's books saw the poster on the 2 days "Joy of Living level 1" meditation retreat organised by his local centre, Tergar Singapore, at Poh Ming Tse Temple and invited me to sign up with her. I had no idea who he is then but as I was also looking for short-term meditation retreat, I just signed up without knowing what to expect. Later, she lent me the "Joyful Wisdom" which upon flipping the 1st few pages, I found it to be so smooth reading that I decided to get the 2 books myself.  Through reading his books, I get to know that he was also one of those meditators, along with Ven. Matthieu Ricard  involved in the MRI testing of Happiness mentioned by Meng, in his recent talk. 

I did not managed to finish reading the books before the retreat in the short time frame, and went there still without expectation. Nevertheless, no regrets, it is really an eye-opener on the flow of teachings "provided by Rinpoche", which is well facilitated by Ani. An unconventional refreshing way of teaching, focusing on teaching methods to apply in daily lives. I am looking forward to their level 2 & 3 retreat but before that we have to accomplish the homework set by Rinpoche as it will still take some time for us to digest all the teachings taught over the last 2 days and build up our foundation. I had only known Vajrayana Buddhism via their prayers and mantra chanting, so this meditation aspect is a new experience and new aspect of it revealed. 

Joy of Living retreat is Definitely one that I will strongly recommend to my friends, especially the beginners, to meditation. Not to reveal the details but for you to discover by attending yourself if there is another retreat coming up.

Find out more at http://tergar.org/,

or join them at their monthly Meditation practice & text study session one of the Sundays of the month, 2.30-5.30pm at Taipei Buddhist Centre (near Lavender MRT) Meditation room at level 3.  

The text study sharing session on the Chinese or English version of the book: Joyful Wisdom is very enriching, very reflective. Hope there is no obstacles to attend their future sessions.

Rejoice! Following video clips can be found at You-tube for a glance of his Teachings:

How to Meditate - Mingyur Rinpoche Talks about the Essence of Meditation:

 (1 of 2) : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OOHH6pxYi8A

 (2 of 2) : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dPKhJfrpDDg

What Meditation Really is:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GLjelIPg3ys&feature=c4-overview-vl&list=PL177FF6F2352ED1EC

What Meditation is Not:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wcuQd22Pov4

Rejoice: more copies of his Teachings under http://www.youtube.com/user/MingyurRinpoche?gl=SG&hl=en-GB

For those interested to get his books, you may get them locally at Evergreen Buddhist (333 Kreta Ayer Rd, #02-24, S080333, corner of hdb block diagonally opposite Buddha Tooth Relics temple at Chinatown ), Awareness Place (Bras Basah Complex #01-63 or at kmspks beside Hall of Universal Brightness) or 

via Amazon by clicking here for"Joy of Living" or here for "Joyful Wisdom" or 

on the logo on right column of this page for more review.

May you enjoy them as much as many of us did. :-)

Oh attached also a Very good QnA session between Mingyur Rinpoche & Venerable Haitao on Vajra practices. :-)

很棒的问答！详解藏传修行法！

Watch "海濤法師與明珠仁波切智慧座談" on YouTube - 海濤法師與明珠仁波切智慧座談: http://youtu.be/Q_D_tobL_Ls

A good article! 

A rare combination of youth and wisdom, Mingyur Rinpoche discusses his life as a young teacher and student of the dharma.

 http://www.tricycle.com/interview/easy-middle

Are you Ready to Go???

This is the textbook recommended for use in the Sutra Discussion class ~ In the Buddha's Words ~ An Anthology of Discourses from the Pali Canon ~ Edited & introduced by Bihkkhu Bodhi. Well translated discourses with good theme organisation.:-) Enhanced further with Venerable's selection of discourses to discuss in the class.
---------
Sutta Discussion Lesson 3:

Are you Ready to Go? :-) .....

Chinese Book Fair 2010

The Chinese Book Fair at Suntec Convention Hall level 4. From now until 6 Jun 2010.

Located near the entrance is the Commercial Press PL (Shang Wu ). It has a good variety of books, all neatly organised. It has a good section on children's book. The range below is along the theme that I am looking for, teaching young children safety via colourful characters and stories.
It also has a good range of pocket-sized motivational books with 60 meaningful short stories grouped into various themes like above. Attractive to catch my attention & successful in making me become a buyer!:P (hey, also available on-line: Story60.mysinablog.com)
Most shops are now offering ave of at least 20% discount. So, don't wait lah...

Dharma in Comics for Adults too!

With Gratitude! (Gan En!)

I had a few questions in mind recently and they were resolved and my faith reinforced after reading... yes, the FaHuaJing in comics form.

It is with rekindled interest to visit the Buddhist Life Mission, Venerable Hai Tao's Dharma Centre in Singapore after getting a Buddhist story-book published by the Chung Hua Sutra Printing Association from Taiwan during a recent retreat.

It must be with much blessings that I was given this set by the volunteer during the visit to the centre.

I was told that this was just returned to the centre and most likely the volunteer must had noticed my excitement in discovering the other story-book/comics Gems at the centre that he offered them to me amongst other visitors.:P

With good and easier to understand explanation of the Sutra (I believe is just parts of it) incorporated into comics, I found the answers to a couple of queries that I had and appreciate this introduction to FaHuaJing as a sutra recommendable to all by the Buddha. I pray for the opportunity to be able to appreciate the actual text in the near future.

May more sutras be re-translated into easier to understand mode to reach out to more and printing of more such publications could be supported by all.

Amituofo!

The Buddhist Life Mission is located at 19-B Lorong Bachok (Off Geylang Lor 19) Singapore 387788.
It often organises life release activities and if you are interested, you may call their centre at 6836 9088 (after 12pm) for more details of their activities.
And just discovered they have a blog: http://buddhistlife2006.blogspot.com/ :-)

The Common Endeavor of Buddhists

Visited Dharma Drum Singapore recently and found some additions in their Free Book Distribution Shelves.
I like their new card (right bottom of picture) with the Buddha on the background with following phrases:

The Common Endeavor of Buddhists
Have Faith in the Buddha, Follow the Dharma, Respect the Sangha;
The Three Jewels are a bright lamp shining throughout eternity.

Uplift the character of humanity
And build a pure land on earth.

Being grateful, repaying kindness,: this is first;
Benefit others and you benefit yourself.

Foremost is to exert your wholehearted effort
Without measuring more or less.

Kindness and compassion have no enemies,
And wisdom engenders no vexations.

The busy make the most of time;
The diligent enjoy the best of health.

In broadly sowing the fields of merit,
Why fear any any hardship or rebuke?

Those who give selflessly are blessed;
Those who do good deeds are happy.

In every moment feel the joy of the Dharma,
And abide in the bliss of meditation.

Recite "Guanyin Bodhisattva" everywhere
And chant "Amitabha Buddha" without end.

Amituofo! :-)

Gems - Buddhist Dharma Comics n Story books!

After getting some gems! from a recent retreat , I had the opportunity to revisit Ven Hai Tao's Dharma Centre in Singapore, Buddhist Life Mission, located at 19-B Lorong Bachok (Off Geylang Lor 19) Singapore 387788.

It is ironical that a centre advocating life liberation is located just a few shops away from a popular shop selling something that they are discouraging from. But maybe it could be good for the suffering beings who will likely receive prayers & merits from their neighbors.

Nevertheless, it is a good visit to the Dharma centre as I found more gems! Dharma in comics & story-book form for children & also adults! All printed & sent from Taiwan, good quality & mostly colorful. And even found one that they printed in English.

They may be the most pro-children Buddhist centre in Dharma books printing that I had encountered so far. Too bad we couldn't make an order earlier to print & distribute in time for coming Vesak celebration month but

Do Look out for their Cartoon DVDs on Life Protection that will be distributed in the free Distribution Booth in the coming Vesak @ Orchard 2010 (http://vesakcelebrations.sg/ )

As for the books, sorry but there will only be limited copies for those with affinity...

Lofty Peaks in Little Sayings - Part2

More quotes from Lofty Peaks in Little Sayings :

If you are not influenced by states when you are moving, then your movement is the same as stillness.
If you are not disturbed by idle thoughts when you are still, then your stillness is just like movement.
If you can cultivate to the point where movement and stillness are the same, then your skill is mature and there is neither movement nor stillness, neither emptiness nor existence.
That is the Middle Way.

Why is the world in such trouble?
It is because of fighting.
People have let their tiger-like tempers and fiery ignorance get the best of them.
People fight with each other, families feud with families, and on a greater scale,
nations battle with nations.
Such fighting will surely be the end of us.
But even when we die, we still will not have realized what happened.

Holding the precepts means watching for and correcting your own mistakes at all times.
It does not mean minding others' mistakes and not doing anything to correct your own.
That would be like doing other people's dirty laundry.

What is the Way?
It is just the truth.
The truth is such that no one can overturn it.
The truth is absolute, not relative.
There is only one truth, not two.
The Way is common to all true cultivators.
It can be explained in Confucianism, in Taoism and in Buddhism as well.
The Way is the Truth, and any religion can teach it.
When the Buddha became enlightened, he exclaimed in surprise at what he had discovered,
"How strange! How strange!
All living beings have the Buddha nature."

Lofty Peaks in Little Sayings

My 1st encounter to Teachings by Master Hsuan Hua was about 2 years ago when their branch in Singapore set up a free book distribution booth at the book fair at Bras Basah Complex and as then I just read about Rev. Heng Sure, hence the booth attracted my attention. There are many wonderful books.

Recently, they are reducing their operations in Singapore and distributing their collection of books and this small pocket-sized booklet is one of the treasures I have got.

Below are some of the quotes compiled in the booklet.:-)

When you seek nothing, you find true happiness.

Your nature will be steady, you will be at peace.

Wishing to climb high, we start low.

wishing to go far, we begin with what is near.

Parents are living Buddhas right in your home so do not neglect what is near to seek afar.

Everything is made from the mind.

If your mind is not true, even the true becomes false.

If your mind is true, then even the false can change.

A great response can happen.

If we do not look within ourselves to find our own mind,

then we will miss the chance to see things clearly.

For the sake of momentary pleasure, we may do things that we will regret for the rest of our lives. There is an old saying: "Content with what we have, we are always glad.

Being patient with what comes, peace is always with us."

How true that is!

First of all, we should work on not fighting, not being greedy, not seeking, not being selfish, not pursuing personal advantage, and not lying.

These principles are very simple. we should start from what is simple, moving from near to far, and from shallow to deep.

You cannot just get angry when you feel like it, you cannot think, "This is wrong. This is not right." Do not be so negative. Things are not always going to go your way, so take a step back and think, "Patience! Patience!Got to have patience!" Then things will turn out fine.

The effect fits the cause. Do good and good will come to you.

Do evil and you will get evil back.

This is natural law.

Create a perfect result and get a perfect result.

Plant a haphazard cause and get a haphazrd effect. Be clear about this.

Do not let it go in one ear and out the other.

Do not fight. If we do not fight with people, then people will not fight with us.

Even if people do fight with me, I will not fight back. If we can be like that, then disputes would just not happen.

Whatever is in our minds will also exist outside.

If there are no wars going on in our minds, there will be no wars outside.

I Wonder Why, 心灵曙光

This is one of the earlier books that brought me back to Buddhism, its easy to understand Q&A format explaining the many doubts that I had about religion, about Buddhism. It is written by Ven. Chodron. Many a times, re-reading it is still as refreshing & enjoyable, reminding me of the right views. It is certainly a good introduction book for beginners. For those who prefers to read in Chinese, there is an excellent translation of it ( by bro 涂炳忠) and a beautiful name given to the book, 心灵曙光. Reading the two is rejoicing. :-) They are published by KMSPKS and freely distributed at various locations.

related link: Working with Anger

World Book Fair 2008

I had a quick visit to the book fair at Suntec Convention Hall #04.
This current fair has a large section on Chinese books and I was surprised to find a number of booths from different religions as well.
Near the centre, Tzu Chi Foundation has a relatively large area promoting their variety of books (for all ages) & recyclable products (I think the price of the recyclable chopstick & spoon set will really encourage one to reuse it for years :P, a good gift) by very enthusiastic volunteers. You can find display of educational information on loving earth near their cashier & to promote care for environment, they will provide you with free reusable blue bags with purchases made.

Moving to right corner, there is a COSPLAY on comic characters. There, I found one of my favourite comics: Inuyasha :-)

Near the center end, there is photo exhibition on China Sichuan Quake Disaster that really touched many...

Just near the photo exhibits, look out for this Malaysia bookshop that is promoting their local Chinese comics 哥妹俩 for kids (at only S$1) which I find quite educational. It includes easy to understand comic explaination of Chinese idioms 成语 & a main story with a theme such as respecting parents via its comic characters. It seems to be very popular in Malaysia & well, just pick up a copy to read & you will understand why...Even adults can enjoy it...

The book fair will be held until 8 Jun 08...

Vesak@Orchard 2552

Purifying process as symbolised by bathing of Prince Siddhartha statute

Coloured Light reflecting on the Buddha statute
STOMP - Great Music by Buddhist Youth.
Lovely voice by a Finland Buddhist Youth

Look out for the booths promoting this newly published "The Singapore Buddhist HandBook" by SBF to commemorate the 2552nd celebration of Vesak at only $2 each.

The 1st part contains Basic teachings of Buddhism while part two features the Buddhist directory including list of Buddhist & related Organisations. Not to be missed is from pg 118, list of Vegetarian Restaurants & Foodstalls in Spore (A-Z) and for those who wish to read on further on Buddhism, pg 157 introduces a list of recommended Buddhist websites.

Hope to see you at Ngee Ann City Civic Plaza,

(Sun 8-9am Relaxation Meditiation by Venerable Sik Kwang Sheng
followed by a series of special Dharma events held throughout the day to 5pm)

Cheers:-)

Working With Anger

How lucky to find all my favourite books in 1 shot.

Let me start by introducing one of the books that help me greatly in coping with my emotions, my patience, a book (lower left in blue) that helps me greatly in everyday life that I would like to share with all.

Extracted from pg 28-30 of "Working With Anger":

Several techniques have been discussed to help dissolve our anger. To review them:

1) Remember the example of someone saying we have a nose or we have horns. We can acknowledge our faults and mistakes, just as we acknowledge having a nose on our face. There's no need to get angry. On the other hand, if someone blames us for something we didn't do, it's as if he said we have horns on our head. There's no reason to be angry at something untrue.
2) Ask ourselves, “Can I do something about it?” If we can, then anger is out of place because we can improve the situation. If we can't change the situation, anger is useless because nothing can be done.3) Examine how we got into the situation. This has two parts:
a) What actions did we do recently to prompt the disagreement? Examining this helps us to understand why the other person is upset.
b) Recognise that unpleasant situations are due to our having harmed others earlier this life or in previous lives. Seeing our own destructive actions as the principal cause, we can learn from our past mistakes and resolve to act better in the future.
4) Remember the kindness of the enemy. First, she points out our mistakes so we can correct them and improve our character. Second, she gives us the opportunity to practice patience, a necessary quality in our spiritual development. In these ways, the enemy is kinder to us than our friends or even the Buddha.
5) Give the pain to our selfish attitude by recognizing it as the source of all our problems.
6) Ask ourselves, “Is it the person's nature to act like this?” If it is, there's no reason to be angry, for it would be like being annoyed with fire for burning. If it isn't the person's nature, again anger is unrealistic, for it would be like getting angry at the sky for having clouds in it.
7) Examine the disadvantages of anger and grudge-holding. This gives us tremendous energy to let go of these destructive emotions.
8) Recognise that the other person's unhappiness and confusion are making him harm us. Since we know what it is like to be unhappy, we can empathise with him. Thus, he becomes the object of our compassion, not the object of our anger.
Whether or not these techniques work for us depends on us. We have to practice them repeatedly in order to build up new mental and emotional habits. Keeping medicine in a drawer without taking it doesn't cure the illness. Similarly, just listening to teachings without putting them into practice won't lessen our anger. Our peace of mind is our own responsibility.
The book is written by Ven. Thubten Chodron (http://www.thubtenchodron.org/Biography/index.html) printed by KMSPKSM (http://www.kmspks.org/kmspks/index.htm) for free distribution. The 1st part of book gave illustrations of above techniques to apply & end with Q&A. Is a simple to read yet meaningful book for all.

There are several free distribution of Dharma books' shelves available around the Bright Hill temple. Take a stroll there & feel free to take a copy of the books home for leisure reading:-)